Janet Schlarbaum Tips on How to Achieve It

By Janet Schlarbaum | August 12, 2009

Total Dependence on You, Tips on How to Achieve It

Janet Schlarbaum Tips on How to Achieve It By Chinweike Okwuduche.

Human Beings by nature enjoy seeing other people depend on them. Even a new born baby would be happy seeing some people depend on him/her. The irony there is that in as much as people love to gain other peoples’ total dependence/submission, all are not willing to pay the price attached to this great status. While the price might be too high for some people to pay, to some, it is much cheaper than the price of being dependent (by this article, am sure you are in the later class).

So if you are among the later category, read on for this article is for you. Making other people depend on you is much more easier than you ever imagined. The whole art is summed up in a phrase “Learning and Sacrificing to meet other peoples’ need”. I found this to be true while in the University. I spent most of my time learning something new to teach my friends and also sacrificing my comfort for other peoples’ pleasure. It hurt at the initial stage but I later come to term with it.

The joy that I derived from seeing people genuinely depend on me greatly outweighed the initial sufferings. Below are the qualities that you must posses to make people depend on you without limit: Thick skin to the temptation of immediate self gratification: This may sound too obvious but this is one area where many people get it all wrong. Getting people to have trust in you takes a lot. So much immediate gratification has to be foregone. This will put you in a position to reach out to more people with the little resources at your disposal. Be a good learner: In this our present time, learners has finally come to inherit the world. learning so much will put you in a position to have something (knowledge) of value that people can tap from. Statistics has shown that people tend to get closer to those that has something new to give to them at all times. Be a helper:

Always be on the look out to take “advantage” of opportunity to help people. This will not only make people have confidence in you but will also make them LOVE you and this in turn will bring you peace of mind that money cannot buy. Ziglar summed it all up in his his Golden rule philosophy ” You will get all the things you need if you can just help enough people get what they want”. Be a good listener: People appreciate you more when they realise that you have a good listening ear. This will act as a bait that will always bring them to your door step whenever they have problem. You understand peoples’ predicament when you listen to them and this in turn will make you give appropriate help (advise wise or material wise). Be compassionate: Compassionate heart will no doubt make you have feelings for your fellow human beings. A compassionate heart is the power house of “help and goodness”.

If you want people to trust in you, demonstrate to them that you have heart large enough to accommodate their problems. Compassionate heart will give you that “Large heart”. Be a “good-finder”: The society we live in today has made it almost impossible for people to be good. “Nice guys don’t survive” is the reigning slang. I can say it without mixing words that you will get people to have total confidence in you if they discover you are a good-finder and not a fault-finder. Have a forgiving spirit: We all err at one time or the other. As a matter of fact, we cannot live our life here on planet earth without offending people or people offending us. What matters is our ability to quickly throw whatever wrong that people must have done to to us behind and position our self to help them if need be. I can almost assure you that people will come to love and trust you if the find out you have a forgiving heart. Though some people may want to take advantage of this character but never mind.

Topics: Janet Schlarbaum Tips on How to Achieve It | Comments Off

Comments are closed.

« | Home | »

Search