Double Your Self Motivation and Achieve Your Goals Automatically
By Janet Schlarbaum | November 13, 2008
By Peter Dowell
Everyone wants to achieve their goals and dreams in life, but making your dreams comes true is not always easy. It requires hard work, and to work hard you have to be self motivated. Your dreams may be very dear to you, but at some point in life one may lose the initial motivation and wishes there was a a magic pill to double self motivation.
You have to believe in yourself and believe in your ability to achieve to remain motivated. Your goals also have to be clear to you because you need a purpose for motivation. Once you have your goals set, let your self-belief develop an inner energy based on your individual strengths.
Unfortunately, self motivation does not come with an on-off switch. When it’s “on”, you can feel the positive energy that won’t let you stop until you complete your work. But when it’s “off”, you just don’t feel motivated to do the work no matter how important it is and you may keep procrastinating.
There are of course external factors that can keep you motivated. Friends are one example. If you are one of those few people who have the kind of friends on whom you can rely on to always encourage you, then you are very lucky. But not everyone is that lucky.
Self hypnosis can encourage you to achieve your ambitions and challenge yourself to always make the most of everything you do. Self hypnosis audios will train your unconscious mind so that self-motivation becomes effortless.
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Living a Life of Regret
By Janet Schlarbaum | November 6, 2008
By H. Les Brown
Emily Dickinson wrote, “Remorse is cureless, the disease not even God can heal.” ‘Remorse’ arises as a sorrow for past decisions that you’ve made, while ‘regret’ serves as a broader, more useful term, describing a wish that you’d made other choices in the past: choices either to avoid doing something that you’ve done or to do something that you avoided. At their root, the two emotions are practically synonymous. They’re both cases of feeling sad because of choices that you made once upon a time.
As the disappointments that characterize the midlife transition slowly strip away the feelings of achievement, success and personal adequacy that used to keep you going as a mere adult, oftentimes what remains - like grounds stuck to the bottom of a drained coffee mug - are all your regrets: “I wish I hadn’t done that;” “I wish I hadn’t said that to him/her;” “If only I’d listened to him/her;” “I shouldn’t have passed up that opportunity.” Regret, exposed by present disappointments, leaves you pining over a lifetime of unfortunate detours and roads not taken. No wonder the midlife transition feels so depressing!
Good news! There exists a road out of regret. It begins, as every significant life-altering decision must, with a change of heart and mind. To shift from living a life of sadness, guilt, self-recrimination, and regret, you don’t have to do anything. All you need to do is to change your mind. I say this very often, but it needs repeating even more often. People like you and me want to make living life harder than it needs to be. Somehow, deep down inside, we carry with us the core belief that, if something isn’t gut-wrenchingly hard, it can’t be effective. Yet, how many times in the past have you agonized over something that later turned out to be a very simple miscalculation or misunderstanding? It happens all the time. Shockingly, the difference between living a life of fullness and satisfaction and living a life of regret lies entirely in the decision that you make - here and now - about how you’re going to think about it.
Many years ago, a mentor of mine gave me a phrase that I’ve found to be one of the most powerful principles (a mantra, in fact) that you can use to disarm the negativity that almost continually underlies and undermines your decision-making process. The statement itself is simple but very controversial, so I’ll need to explain both how to use it and how not to use it. Here’s your mantra for today (or any day that you find your life tinged with regret): The decision that you made, at the time you made it, was the right decision for you.
Here’s some background that’ll help you appreciate how this simple but profound statement can work for you. When you review your past, you’re going to find some decisions that turned out badly for you or for others. You’re going to be able to see that there were different, even better, decisions that you could have made at the time that might have worked out better for you or for all involved. There’s nothing quite like a disastrous result to convince you that another choice might have served you better. When you look back at these painful moments, you’ll naturally experience sad feelings around them.
These feelings come in two flavors: guilt and shame. They’re very different emotions: guilt arises from a realization that you could have done better; shame suggests that you could have been better. Guilt speaks to your decisions and actions, shame speaks to your being as a person. Guilt is an absolutely necessary emotion that assists you in learning not to make the same mistakes over again. A sociopath is someone who is incapable of feeling true guilt, and therefore never learns ‘right from wrong’. Shame, on the other hand, raises doubts about your value and adequacy as a person. Shame, rather than providing you with assistance in moving forward in a more positive direction, causes debilitating doubt. Shame brings with it the terror of making a mistake, and the crisis of self-confidence that paralyzes your entire decision-making process.
Feelings of guilt should lift once your shortcoming has been acknowledged and you have taken steps to correct the situation and you have made an effort to make amends for whatever damage you may have caused. This is the experience of redemption. Shame, on the other hand, illustrates the experience that Emily Dickinson spoke about. Believing that you have a fundamental flaw in your very being not only resists a cure, it also deepens with every mistake you make. Acknowledging that whatever decision you made at the time you made it was the right one for you must not excuse you from guilt: regardless of your good intentions, you still made an error in judgment, culpable or not. This acknowledgment can, however, free you from shame - and the pervasive sense of regret that flows from it.
Here’s the point in a nutshell: you have 20/20 hindsight. When you attempt to pass judgment on the decisions you made in the past with the knowledge and experience you have in the present, you’re doing yourself a huge injustice. You can’t know what you don’t know until you know it. The pain you experience around guilt represents a good, positive, forward-moving impetus. Remember, please, that pain only means punishment for children who don’t know any better. Once you’ve reached the midlife transition, you’re ready to accept the fact that pain (physical or emotional) only represents the universe trying to get your attention. There’s no real shame in pain. For a mature adult, you can learn to embrace the pain and walk through the fear into something more wonderfully positive. You only learn, after all, by your mistakes.
Once again: when you pass judgment on the decisions that you made in the past using the knowledge and experience you have in the present, you’re shaming yourself completely unjustly. When that happens, it’s time to remind yourself:
The decision that you made, at the time that you made it, was the right decision for you. Breathe it out. Let it go. So long as you’ve learned from the mistakes of the past, you have no need for regret. Every decision you’ve made, every experience (both positive and negative) that you’ve had along the way, has taken you to where you are today and made you the person you are today.
There is no shame in that. In fact, as you transition through midlife, you’re going to have the opportunity to feel - and to express - gratitude for every mistake, every wrong turn, every ’sin’ that you’ve experienced in your life. After all, every decision of your life (the unacceptable ones as well as the acceptable ones) has brought you to this moment. And that, dear friend, is a very good thing!
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Self Motivation - 5 Minutes to Get Motivated and Accomplish Something Meaningful Today
By Janet Schlarbaum | October 31, 2008
By Bettina Langerfeldt
Are you tired of feeling that you are losing your time in unnecessary business? Are you frustrated after finishing your day with a sense that you haven’t accomplished a thing?
Many of us are so caught up in our daily routine that we don’t even consider the remote possibility of getting passionate about what we do.
Here are 5 simple steps that will help you organize your day and get motivated again to accomplish something that is meaningful to you:
1. Make a list of all the things you would enjoy doing today. Yes, not a regular to-do list, but a list of dreams and goals you have always left for some day when you would finally have time. Think of your strengths and talents you’ve always wanted to develop. Write down that course you were going to take one day, or that book you thought you would write once you grew up. Lay out a step-by-step plan to accomplish this goal by doing a little bit every day and determine to start today.
2. Now you write down a list of what you have to do today. These are your daily duties you are responsible for. Don’t put too much on that list, it will overwhelm you and ultimately lead to frustration. If there is a bigger task you need to accomplish, divide it into little bites and determine to deal with them during several days.
3. Do the second list first. Rank the items on your list according to their urgency and importance. If you are constantly leaving your duties for later, they will lurk like a dark cloud over everything you do during your day. While you are in what might feel like your daily treadmill, motivate yourself by thinking of the fun stuff you will do later.
4. Start checking the items you have already done. This will give you a marvelous feeling of accomplishment. There is no way around our daily duties, but we should celebrate a bit to feel satisfied once they are accomplished.
5. Now you can dedicate time to your first list without a bad conscience. You can finally start developing in that area you never had the time for. And there is nothing more fulfilling than getting on with what God has put in your heart to do.
If you do this each day, you will not only accomplish your daily duties efficiently, but you will also have made the important step of taking the time to pursue your dreams consistently.
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Midlife Women in the Age of Miracles - Do You Know Where You’re Going
By Janet Schlarbaum | October 28, 2008
By Dr. Toni LaMotta
Article selected and published by Janet Schlarbaum, Philadelphia Pennsylvania
Are you living your life’s dream right now? Women, midlife can be the age of miracles for you. If you are not yet living your dream but are still alive? There’s still time!
Victor Hugo once said “Each one should frame his life so that at some future hour fact and his dreamings meet.”
There is a story told that years ago, while unearthing an ancient Egyptian tomb, an archaeologist came upon seeds buried in a piece of wood. When they were planted, the seeds realized their potential after more than 3,000 years!
There are seeds of possibility in all of us still. Allow yourself some waking DREAMING… what do you see for yourself?
It’s becoming clearer and clearer to me how we create every aspect of our lives - and when we get truly alert - or conscious, we begin to see how we get to SEE in life only that which we have already SEEN in mind..
Do you know where you’re going to?
You’re going wherever you SEE yourself going…
Take time this week - randomly set an alarm during the day - and when it goes off ask -
is what I’m doing right now taking me where I want to go?
Do you like the things that life is showing you?
It’s showing you what you were able to see in the past.
If you don’t like what you are seeing - Start SEEING it differently.. Scripture tells us - without a vision, the people perish… Without knowing where you are going - you’ll dissipate the energy on things that are meaningless…
How do you see yourself? Where do you see yourself in a year? What are you doing? Who are you being? In 5 years? And ultimately - what’s your REAL AIM in life? Women in midlife have the perfect opportunity to ask these questions.
SPEND Time EVERY day picturing what you would have your life to be…
-Create Treasure Maps if you’re visual -
-Tell yourself if your auditory…
-Test drive the car if your kinesthetic
You KNOW to do these things– are you doing them? And,
If not, why not?
You probably have about one third of a lifetime - at least - left. Don’t let being a woman in midlife stop you.
This truly can be your age of miracles.
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You Killed Your Motivation
By Janet Schlarbaum | October 13, 2008
Article Posted by: Janet Schlarbaum Pennsylvania
By: Tan Glenn
If you’re reading this, you should be keen to boost your motivation. Are you? Spot on, I’ll start of with one simple thing and that is motivation is not a one-time process. Its not something in which you are boosted one day and it will last a life time.
No.
It’s a constant process. You need to feed yourself everyday just like to feed the nuggets of inspiration and motivation each day.
Many people do not constantly live their life in a tip-top level of coming out of bed and feeling great each day and wanting to make their lives the best of it all.
So how do we actually not kill your motivation or rather slap yourself with all the positive stuff all day.
You killed your motivation without knowing. Start with something small first and yet reap big benefits later.
Wake up each day and think, “What can I do today that others don’t so that I can achieve what others can’t tomorrow?” Think about it.
You see the mind works such that we need to constantly keep pounding ourselves with such instigating information that will help make us motivated.
If you have not been doing the necessary motivation, you have been missing the many things that you could have improved your life so much more. Imagine the opportunity cost that you have incurred in your personal life!
What I want to get across to you is that by helping yourself in just a few minutes a day of motivation could help you in the long run. Hence, it’s important to learn to keep empowering your life in one way or another to achieve greater things.
To enable the individual to start the motivation engine and fill up with “fuel” is by all means getting the motivational resources up to you. However, start the basic with your thinking – positive.
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